The Modern Ways To Improve Your Relationship

The Modern Way to Improve Your Relationship

Starting from professional complications to personal dilemmas, it is hard to trace how the stresses of a modern life can transform the person you once loved more than life into a stranger. 

After sharing the same bed for years, you might wake up one day to realise that the chemistry is long gone.

You hurry every morning to get ready for work as she checks her outfit for the one last time before leaving. 

After grinding your brain and heart for hours at work, you finally come home to have dinner and sleep.

The fatigue in your body has silently replaced your chemistry with her, and both of you have become complacent. 

Is there a way to change your relationship for good? Can you get back to the beginning of your relationship where it was difficult to keep your hands off each other?

Blending with the demands of the current age, we work around subtle ways of understanding the dynamics of a relationship. 

In this article, we’ve mentioned some tried and tested methods of reigniting the flame in your relationship.

While balancing your private and professional life, you can get your relationship back on track with little gestures, as mentioned below. 

They won’t take much time, but their impact will strengthen your bond with your partner for years to come.

So let’s start with the best way to kick-start your improved relationship.

9 Ways To Improve Your Relationship

1. Keep The Kisses Going

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The passionate kisses of the initial days are slowly replaced by little pecks or worse, nothing. When you stop making out, the desire for the other person goes down. 

If your partner stops kissing you, you will start feeling less desirable. 

So, prevent that from happening and keep kissing your partner frequently.

2. Replace ‘You’ with ‘I’

Want to avoid arguments? The best way is to replace all your ‘you’ with ‘I.’ 

When anger tends to control our mind, we always get self-defensive and start blaming our partner for everything. 

Statements like “You made me feel pathetic,” “you don’t make many efforts,” and “You don’t care about our relationship” are commonly exchanged.

One argument leads to another, and so on. The only way to end this chain of disturbing thoughts is to say, “I have been feeling left out,” or “I think that our relationship needs more efforts.” 

It immediately calms your partner down, and instead of getting defensive, she empathises with the situation and tries to work on the complications.

3. Talk Everyday

You hear it everywhere, but when the time comes to do it, the awkwardness of having difficult conversations stops you. 

No matter how monotonous your routine is, always talk about your feelings with your partner at the end of the day. 

Before sleeping, share your best and the worst moments with each other. By doing this, you will feel closer to each other’s lives, and intimacy will increase.

Talk Everyday
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Talk Everyday
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4. When In Doubt, Ask

Assumptions are the worst enemy of any relationship. When you’ve shared a significant part of your life with someone, you think that you know everything about them. 

Stop these thoughts immediately when they come to your mind. Assuming their behaviour or reaction could cause significant misunderstandings.

So, when you’re doubtful about anything, ask before judging. Have the patience to listen to the answer even if it doesn’t match with your assumption.

5. Compete With Each Other

Your relationship should push you to be the best version of yourself. The best way to do this is by turning little activities into a competition with your partner. 

Suppose you’re out for jogging, race to see who comes back home faster. Similarly, cook, dance, eat, and draw together, but remember, no one ever loses in these games.

6. Plan A Vacation

Plan A Vacation
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Vacations are one of the most fun-filled activities when you plan them with your partner. Even if it’s challenging to plan a long trip, take a mini-vacation for 2-3 days and do the activities you love.

It beats the dullness of your work life and gives you something to look forward to. The time you spend in the company of each other will drastically increase your intimacy and love for your partner.

7. Do Something You’re Afraid Of, Together

Are you scared of bungee jumping? 

Book two tickets for a bungee jumping adventure and start packing your bags. 

List out the activities that each one of you is scared of and do them together. By frequently engaging in such stressful activities, you can learn a lot about your partner. 

Your team bonding will improve, and this will help you in dealing with the problems in life with ease.

8. Talk About Your Finances

Significant complications in a relationship revolve around money. If you think that this is the case with you, sit down and talk to your partner about it. 

She is the one you’d be spending your life with. Thus, you must share your current situation and goals with her. This will give you the room to plan and work on your long-term financial goals as a team.

Just like this, you can also make a bucket list for life and share it. When you do this, fulfilling your dream becomes teamwork rather than an individual task.

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Talk About Your Finances
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9. Hold Her Hand

Keep all the romantic gestures one side of a beam balance and hold hands on the other. That’s how intimate this little gesture feels. 

When you’re out with your partner, hold her hand to show your protective side. This small act will indirectly communicate that you will be there for her no matter what.


Just like every other aspect of your life, romantic relationships require work. To become a better person, you start working on your skills. Similarly, to become a better partner, the only way is to start working on your relationship.

The little actions and behaviour changes, as we’ve mentioned, can bring you very close to your partner and forge an unbreakable bond. This will keep your romance alive even when you turn 70.

Keep growing and sharing the love with your partner. Every day will soon start feeling like a Sunday.

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